my "date"
my "date"
I told many of the sugfam that i had a date on Friday night. I was really excited because every guy i ever meet never wants to take me out and finally i meet someone who wants to take me out. So i brought a new outfit and shoes, i was ready for this date. here's the back story: i met him through an online dating service- so when i was going to meet him in the city, i was going with my friend KaSandra. So i had a friend to be there with me as support and safety.
Friday night comes, i talk to the boy, his name is Russ by the way talk about when and where we're going to meet. I talk to my friend KaSandra about when we should meet up to go into the city. Everything seem to go smooth. until 15 minutes before my friend was suppose to stop by and pick me up. She calls me and says "I'm Not Going" her reasoning, "i have nothing to wear." So now i have to cancel on Russ, and he's pissed. I'm pissed, and now my friend and i are arguing.
I believe Russ felt i backed out because i was scared, but i tried to explain what happened and have him understand. That night it seemed like he was getting over the issue and was still considering taking out on Sunday afternoon. But then Saturday came and he barely wanted to talk to me when i text him.
So i ask you my sugfam- Should i give it another day and call him tomorrow, apology again and ask to take HIM out to dinner? Or just let it go?
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Post a CommentYou had to cancel for good reason. its dangerous to meet a random guy. You HAD to have a friend with you and she backed out. first red flag, why is he not understanding this? One apology should have done the trick. No second chance. As long as he knows you yourself did not back out and it was your friend he should be fine waiting for the date to happen at a later time.
You dont owe this guy anything.
What a bummer MB! I agree with acorn you can't trust anybody now a days. Wanting to have a friend there for your safety is perfectly understandable and if he can't understand that oh well! Your friend should be doing a lot of apologizing to you for backing out at the last minute and especially with that lame excuse! I would try one more time to talk to him if you really like him but that's it.
You don't owe him an apology!!!!
hmm, i think it was good of you to apologize, but he shouldnt act soo upset over it. As everyone else has stated you had a good reason to cancel; he is a stranger, you gotta have a wing chick just in case he goes "Psycho killaah-Norman Bates" (ODB-shimmy Shimmy Ya). If he cant understand and is making you feel so guilty then dump him. Its one thing for him to express disappointment in not getting to hang out, its another thing for him to get mad and start ignoring you and making you feel bad. I mean think about it, if he acts this way now, what you you guys do start dating and you have to cancel at a later time? his reaction now is milder because your a stranger. He may complete go ape shit if he gets comfortable and shows his true colors.
you apologized once, if he can understand he not for you.
Move on.
A friday night first date is a lot of pressure for anyone! Why not call, offer to meet up for an afternoon coffee date and see where it goes. Some of my friends who do online dating always say not to do a whole dinner first. Start with coffee, then lunch, then dinner. By the 3rd date, you should know if it's ok to meet him at night or not.
If he's still obstinate about it, move on!
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